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moved back to canada

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Journal Entry: Beach and other tales

My weekend was special. First I was supposed to go to the beach on Friday with BF. My mom told me last-minute we couldn’t use her car. I was very disappointed , I really feel like it’s hard to be able to count on anybody. (Well it’s her car so I can’t hold a grudge.) So I called 2 rental companies they asked me 1500 dollars deposit! Like really! I know it’s just a deposit but 1) I didn’t that amount of space on my credit car 2) I’m not sure I trust them enough to let them block that much money on my car. AVIS Canada is 500 , AVIS Haiti 1500 HUGE DIFFERENCE! Why is everything more expensive here? ……..

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In a relationship with AHDH 101

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T for Thoughts, tired and time

I’m lost in my thoughts today. It’s making me  anxious, and when I’m anxious I get depressed. I’m kinda sad… I’m very exited about Haiti and having the time to do things I love, like Blogging, teaching and learning. But I feel like Bf is just moving for me, it’s kind of upsetting because he’s the one who convinced me to do it and now he’s freaking out about my plans.

I’m not gonna change them because I’ve decided to choose my happiness first. He doesn’t do well with change, but I think it’s his problem and he has to solve it. I told him he should start planning what he’s  gonna down with his time in Haiti. Everything is easier for us there and I think the ultimate luxury is the amount of free time we’re gonna get to spend on personal projects.

The extra time comes from the fact that for the first year we’ll be at our parent’s (no rent) and they have help (so no cooking or cleaning). Meaning that after work, there’s no chores to do. 

That’s all for today. I’m not feeling well. 

I’ll post tomorrow! 

Kisses! 

R for Resilience

We talked about resilience, and how it’s an important skill to master. Resilience is a matter of survival. Here are my 5 favorite quotes about resilience:

“My scars remind me that I did indeed survive my deepest wounds. That in itself is an accomplishment. And they bring to mind something else, too. They remind me that the damage life has inflicted on me has, in many places, left me stronger and more resilient. What hurt me in the past has actually made me better equipped to face the present.” 
― Steve Goodier

“Resilience is not a commodity you are born with, waiting silently on tap. It is self-manufactured painstakingly over time by working through your problems and never giving up, even in the face of difficulty or failure.” 
― Lorii MyersNo Excuses, The Fit Mind-Fit Body Strategy Book

“Hearts who struggled worst never gives up on possibilities when finding solutions reaching out for others’ loss & despair.” 

― Angelica Hopes

“It is not the critic who counts, not the man who points out how the strong man stumbled, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena; whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood; who strives valiantly; who errs and comes short again and again; who knows the great enthusiasms, the great devotions, and spends himself in a worthy cause; who, at the best, knows in the end the triumph of high achievement; and who, at worst, if he fails, at least fails while daring greatly, so that his place shall never be with those cold and timid souls who know neither victory nor defeat.
-Theodore Roosevelt

It is not the strongest of the species that survive, 
nor the most intelligent, but the one most responsive to change.
~Darwin

 

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N for nice

coffee please

 

 

So N is for nice or why I stopped being Nice. Since I was little people have used the word Nice to describe me. That should be a good thing, but being Nice is often taken for granted. So I was always the one asked to do chores or help someone, my parents had higher expectation of  me in term of conduct than my sister. But the worse was being bullied, I never defended myself, because I was Nice. Kids at school would use me, pretending to be my friend so I can give them money, or do something for them. At university, because I was nice, they would ask me to help them with homework and let me do everything.  I would pretend that I didn’t understand because I wasn’t loosing anything, I knew that I was gaining more knowledge and they were staying dumb , but at one point, I got tired.

Being the Nice one allowed others to take advantage of me. My so called friends would want to hang out with me only when they needed me, but would not invite me to “cool” places, because I guess being smart makes you uncool. So I stopped being Nice, it took time.

First of all I learned to say NO. It’s incredibly hard but once you own your NOs, you will enjoy it.

I also started thinking about myself first when I’m asked for help, by helping that person am I gonna get harmed in any ways? Too many times, I’ve sacrificed my well being over others and I didn’t even get a glimpse of gratitude from these people.

Would they help me if I was in need? If the answer is no, I think twice before helping.

I now stand up for  myself  when I feel that I’ve been treated unfairly, and it helped me a lot, because I use to be very frustrated by injustice.

The last thing I do is that I create proper boundaries with my surrounding. For example I use to take all my mother’s problems personally and worry about it. Now I refrain to ask her questions about things that she needs to solve on her own.

Oh I forgot the most important want, I don’t try to please everybody anymore. There always be people that don’t like me, so as long as I do what’s right in My book, I don’t care about that other’s think of me.

I’m not nice anymore, but I’m compassionate, empathic, and altruistic. I think my mission on earth is to help others, but in order to do so, I have to take care of myself and stay authentic to my values.

Kisses!