One of those nights

It’s midnight, looking for something to do, feeling incredibly lonely. Yay pity party for me ! I’m questioning myself about my life… I don’t regret my past but I’m very concerned about my present. I’ve been with my boyfriend for six years now and we have been through our fair share of problems. I don’t know how we’ve managed to stay together…honestly…

Until last year I handled my personal life pretty well and never let my traumas stopping me from being the person I wanted to be. The problem is that because I appeared so strong, family and friends leaned on me for support. I’m a very sensitive person and I tend to make every battle mine but at one point my energy went low and I never asked for help. At that time my boyfriend had his own demons to deal with but he was there. I never really forgave him for moments where he got weak but I never realized until now that he did the best he could with the tools he had at the moment. My interactions with his family as also thought me that how he was raised had a lot to do with his current self.

We always struggle with our differences in term of values. My mom is a very independent strong professional female who raised us to be independent and outspoken. His family on the other hand is very traditional and the females respect the so called gender hierarchy. I started living by myself at 16 because my mom trusted my judgement and wanted the best for me but everyone around me was planning on failure( not finishing school or getting pregnant). None of that happened primarily because I didn’t want my mother to loose the money invested in me. I’m a very shy person until I feel strongly about and issue and I want to debate.

These little debate incidents have happened with my boyfriend’s dad and his sister, they also see me question his decisions and they don’t like that. The sister once ask me once in a condescending voice why I liked talking about politics. I responded with a clever sarcasm which she did not understand but I still felt a little odd. Like I was weird or crazy for wanting to talk about serious matters. With all that judgement around me not being a typical young lady makes me self-conscious. Believe it or not I’m ashamed to have culture. Except when I’m blogging of course, because nobody knows me it feels safer.

My relationship with my boyfriend is getting better even-though we had a tough month. I really need a plan to boost my self confidence and feel a little less crazy. I wish I could find weird people like me I could hang out with because it feels lonely to be me. I always have crazy projects I want to do but most of the time I end up doing them alone while my friends tell me I’m nuts. For example this summer I turned a table into a bench, took an old nightstand from the streets and repainted it for my room. I was very proud of myself but I didn’t have anyone to share it with. When I think about it maybe it’s because I’m not confident in what I’m doing that I seek approval from others. My boyfriend has always told me that I was an artist but I always felt like an impostor. Can I really paint? Can I really write? Or are people telling me that just because they love me?

I’m seeing my psychologist tomorrow and I have no idea what I’m going to talk about, I’ve solved almost all my problems this week by writing! And it was FREE :D! Sometimes I wish I could just be normal and accept typical boring way of life but then I remember that I wouldn’t trade my intensity for the world.

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Posted on November 13, 2013, in Journal and tagged , , , , , . Bookmark the permalink. 1 Comment.

  1. i have similar issues with my boyfriends family. i never felt totally ACCEPTED for who i really am. not that they’re not good people but i, like you, was raised by a strong single mother who taught me similar values. it can be hard but hey, opposites attract right? as for being normal there’s no such thing! keep being your intense artsy and opinionated self!
    good luck =)

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